Dear Single Sis...

Well here it is that time again... February 14th is here and you're still single. I know you're wondering "what is wrong with me? what did I do? Why don't I have a Valentine?" Listen girl, I know how you feel. Hear me out, I have been there. I thought the same thing. It seems everyone around you has someone but you. Just so you know you're talking to a young sister who is not engaged, married nor seeing anyone. I am single but not miserable! So I know you're thinking "How do you overcome this misery of always being alone on Valentines Day?"

Dear Single Sis

If you send yourself some flowers and say it's from "bae" (that's what they call it now days)  no matter how you fool everyone else you know it does not have the same effect. Don't get yourself all depressed and cry all day for one day. Valentines day is like Father's day, a day to celebrate fathers. Do you do go and cry because you're not a father? I didn't think so. 

How's Your Relationship with Christ?

Before you continue to read I want you to know that this is a Christian Blog. If you have not committed your life to Christ I suggest you do. It is the best decision you can ever make. Before you say, "I have time that's old people stuff..." Well death is striking at all ages so that's not a good excuse. If you were saved once and maybe drifted away... You didn't drift so far away that you can't come back. Say this salvation prayer aloud: "Dear God,
I come to You in the Name of Jesus. I admit that I am not right with You, and I want to be right with You. I ask You to forgive me of all my sins. The Bible says if I confess with my mouth that “Jesus is Lord,” and believe in my heart that God raised Him from the dead, I will be saved (Rom. 10:9). I believe with my heart and I confess with my mouth that Jesus is the Lord and Savior of my life. Thank You for saving me!
In Jesus’ Name I pray. Amen."

Dear single sis...

 I know the feeling of being lonely, feeling incomplete, empty and like no one wants you... sis trust me, you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14) I heard this analogy some where "A diamond does not stop being a diamond because no one recognizes it's value. They shine even brighter. They stay there until the right person comes along who sees their value and invests in their sparkle. So shine bright!" Just because you're single doesn't mean you should start doubting your worth. Single does not mean you are ugly and it definitely does not mean no one wants you. You're listening to someone who is living it

Dear Single Sis 

The hardest pill we have to swallow is that God is in control. He plans our lives. He is in control of it period. God does things we just don't understand but some how it all works together for our good and his glory according to Jeremiah 29:11 For I know the plans I have for you," says the LORD. "They are plans for good and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope.
 and Romans 8:28 And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them. so you have to trust that he knows what he is doing. That sounds to me like God has promised you a great future. He may not make everything comfortable according to what you desire but it is clear that he won't harm you. God has great plans for your life Sis. You don't see it right now but he does. but if you don't hold on you will forfeit God's plan. As a type I prophesy Greater into your life in the Name of Jesus. The future glory of this Temple will be greater than its past glory, says the LORD of Heaven's Armies. And in this place I will bring peace. I, the LORD of Heaven's Armies, have spoken!" (Haggai 2:9) also see Job 8:7

Dear Single Sis...

Pull yourself together. Don't even think about compromising your integrity or even going back to that ex. If he was not good for you then he is not good for you now. Since I am already there I want you to know that any man that does not respect your body is not the one. If he is touching all on you and you have to tell him to stop then I will be honest with you, he is not the one. If he keeps leading you to sin. He is not the one. anyone who leads you to sin does not love you. Many women are mistreated 364 days a year and somewhere some not so smart sister is taking some cheating, lying, lazy joker back all because he bought her a bear and some chocolate. 
Shall I proceed? If you're keeping up with him on social media...you're not over him! Forgive him and move on with your life. Now Forgive him doesn't mean going back to him and hitting him up! There is a difference in being Forgiving and Foolish! Be like Paul No, dear brothers and sisters, I have not achieved it, but I focus on this one thing: Forgetting the past and looking forward to what lies ahead, (Philippians 3:13 NLT)  

Soooo. What do you do?

Dear Single Sis, if you are single and you find it uncomfortable go to God in prayer. There is nothing too small or too big for him Don't worry about anything; instead, pray about everything. "Tell God what you need, and thank him for all he has done." (Philippians 4:6) Tell him how you feel. Many times we tell God about everything else but the truth. We give God deep devotional prayers without telling him the truth. There is nothing wrong with Saying "God I feel a little down because..." Yes God is Holy. Yes he is our father, but he is also our friend.  "I no longer call you slaves, because a master doesn't confide in his slaves. Now you are my friends, since I have told you everything the Father told me." (John 15:15) 

Dear Single Sis Don't find yourself complaining, there is something worse than being single on Valentines day like marrying the wrong person or getting a divorce. God is looking out for you whether you know it or not

Dear Single Sis so what do you do? ah good question! You Don't have to spend your Valentine's Day alone crying and watching lifetime movies nor do you have to stroll social media all night. Everywhere you go you are gonna see couples, but don't allow that to make you bitter. If you have great friends who are single or at least one friend, spend some time with them. Go hang out! Go to a comedy show, watch a movie, have a party, try some new recipes, or play some games! If you don't have any good saved friends that can you can hang with Hang with God! God? I can't see him that sounds so corny... I Know... I know as lame as it sounds...Try it! lay out before God, pray, and study your word! Let him speak to you. There is nothing wrong with laying out before God. A lot of married women always tell how they wish they could have taken advantage of just being in the presence of God when they were single. Do Something sis! You and your girls should encourage each other! As corny as this stuff sounds if you try it you won't regret it. Valentine's Day is about celebrating love in general, be around those you love. 

I pray that this blog has been a blessing to you. Single sisters, pray for me as I pray for you. Out of the many things I have to do God put you on my heart and inspired me to write this blog just for you! I love you so much. You are awesome you are beautiful! honey you are more than a conqueror even when you don't feel like it. I am praying for you! 

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Share this blog with another sister! I pray that it is a blessing to you and others. Feel free to comment if you like. I would love to hear your feedback. You are my SISTER! I looooveee you! sis there is so much destiny and purpose on your life and you don't even recognize it... You are a blessed woman! Just because you don't FEEL something doesn't mean it does not exist...Let me stop typing now before I make my own self happy! LOL!